![CDATA[So often we have in our head the type of man we want. By the time weve graduated form college and head into the real world weve perfected our list of must-haves: tall, dark handsome, educated, ambitious, successful or headed in that direction.etc. But what happens when the love we were looking for turns out to look quite differently then the love that finds us?
Currently I find myself in an (almost) relationship with someone who is (almost) nothing like the man I see myself with. Hes not my physical ideal. Hes way to young and his choice of profession leaves a lot to be desired. But hes sweet, funny and is more emotionally mature then men Ive dated that were ten years his senior. Even with all of his good qualities I still have a hard time admitting to myself that I like him. I dont believe that all relationships have to end in marriage or that just because you like (love) someone means that is the person you should be with. Love is but one of many factors that have to be considered but hes just so different from what I would choose for myself.
It was all an accident how we ended up (sorta) together to begin with but what was supposed to be causal turned into a lot more and Im still wringing my hands about it. Arguably this is the most relaxed Ive been with anyone in a long time. Minus a few initial bumps the relationship is drama free. He makes me laugh, I enjoy his company and the sex is goodyet I keep asking myself, What are you doing with him? Im sure Im not the only one who has found herself in this situation.
I think as women, we sometimes get so wrapped up in what our idea of Mr. Right is that we miss out on an actual Mr. Right that may waltz into out lives. I know I find myself in strange territory. I havent been seriously involved with someone in a few years at the earliest and that lasted a few months. And yet here I am, tiptoeing my way into a relationship with caution and my eyes wide open with a man I had determined wasnt getting any and, once we crossed that barrier, was just going to be a causal relationship, all at a time in my life when I definitely wasnt looking for love.
Maybe thats the problem. Sometimes were just looking to hard. Sometimes, just maybe, we should stop looking for love and let love find us.

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